What to Do If You Think Someone You Know Has Dementia

Have you ever noticed that your parent’s memory is declining? Or perhaps your partners statements aren’t quite as coherent as they used to be?

Well, you’re in a tough position if you think that you’re loved one has dementia. The very thought of them forgetting who you are or even themselves is indeed a very disappointing thing. To make things worse, you are compelled to tell them about their situation before they lose their bearings.


It’s a sensitive subject to deal with, which is why it needs careful thought before diving into the issue.

●       Know the signs and symptoms

Diagnosing the disease early will help patients prepare themselves for the future. This can also help slow down the progression of the disease as they’re able to tap onto interventions early on. Some of the common symptoms of dementia are memory loss, difficulty in performing daily tasks, vagueness in conversations, and speaking in different languages. It will help a lot if you seek professional help as soon as you notice any of these symptoms.

●       Talk it out with family members

You don’t have to be alone in this because doing so will only put unnecessary and excessive burden on your shoulders. Talk about the issue with your other family members and friends and ask them if they also have seen any changes. Do this in a confidential manner, though.

It’s not about spreading rumor or gossip. Instead, it’s all about collaborating with others to know the best thing to do with your loved one who you think has dementia.

●       Put yourself in their shoes

Be sensitive as possible when it comes to approaching your loved one about their possible health issue. This isn’t an easy conversation to have which is why you need to put yourself in their shoes.

Imagine if it was you who was going to be approached to concerning your eventual loss of memory. What would you feel? How would you react?

Choose a time when neither of you is stressed or tired, and do it in a silent place with zero distractions.

●       Seek professional help

Seeking professional help is probably the best thing you can do if you suspect someone of having dementia. However, this is easier said than done. You need to encourage your loved one that they need medical attention as soon as possible because of the changes you see with their behavior.

Doctors know what to do with dementia patients because it’s their job to take care of medical conditions. Don’t push yourself too hard to implementing self-medications. Go to the doctor as early as possible and follow what they have to say. It might be letting your loved one undergo therapy or perhaps take some prescription drugs.

Take note — doctors know best.

It’s normal to feel sad and anxious especially if you suspect your loved one of having dementia. However, confronting the issue is the best way to alleviate its negative effects. Reassure them that what you’re doing is for their best interest. It’s all about supporting them no matter what.

Jane Byrne is a Project Coordinator at FirstCare Nursing Homes. Jane regularly blogs about both the personal and practical challenges of caring and is always actively working on producing informative content.

More than 120 national organisations accuse Government of ‘ignoring children’

An influential group of over 120 children’s charities, teaching unions and other organisations have accused the Government of ignoring children and young people in its spending commitments.

In an open letter to Downing Street, the organisations have demanded that the Government recognise compelling evidence that the services and support that children and young people rely on are at breaking point.

The call comes from one of the broadest coalitions to assemble around such a cause, with representatives working across child health, education, social care, disability and poverty all signing the letter.

As the Chancellor prepares his 2018 budget, and with a spending review looming, signatories have insisted that urgent action must be taken to put children at the heart of Government spending plans.

Kids with Mum

The letter, sent to both the Prime Minister and Chancellor, highlights the pressing challenges facing services and other support for children, showing that:

  • Ninety children are being taken into care every day – this is a record high;
  • Less than a third of children and young people with a diagnosable mental health problem will get access to NHS funded treatment this year;
  • Only three in a hundred families of disabled children think the health and care services available to their children are adequate;
  • Almost three-quarters of school leaders expect they will be unable to balance their budgets in the next financial year;
  • The number of children with special educational needs who are awaiting provision has more than doubled since 2010;
  • Up to 3 million children are at risk of going hungry during school holidays.

Theresa May has promised to bring forward the ‘end of austerity’ and increase investment in public services, however the letter points to a growing body of evidence showing that significant challenges lie ahead.

The coalition of organisations is asking parents, families and other members of the public to show their support by signing a public petition to the Government and using the hashtag #ChildrenAtTheHeart on social media.

Anna Feuchtwang, Chief Executive of the National Children’s Bureau and Chair of End Child Poverty, said:

‘We’ve seen successive budgets come and go with token spending commitments for children and families. If austerity is really coming to an end, its high time the Government puts its money where its mouth is, and makes a concrete financial commitment to the welfare of children.

‘Things we once took for granted, like family support, children’s centres, and respite care for families with disabled children are now the privilege of the few. In some areas of the country, over half the children are growing up in poverty. For these children and the many others who need urgent help, the services, benefits and support that could provide a lifeline have been cut to the bone. We are failing our children if we don’t put them at the heart of government spending.’

Kevin Courtney, Joint General Secretary of the National Education Union, said:

‘School funding is at breaking point with many head teachers having to drastically cut back on courses offered, resources, building repairs, school trips and after school clubs. Class sizes are being increased and the numbers of teachers and support staff are being reduced while begging letters for money to parents and carers are commonplace. Enough is enough – our schools need more funding if we are to give all our children, including those with SEND, the education they deserve.’

Dr Carol Homden CBE, CEO of Coram, said:

‘Working with more than one million children, young people, families and professionals, we have seen first-hand how severely cuts to services and support have affected them.

‘Children are waiting longer to be adopted, others have been denied access to free legal advice and representation – going homeless or being excluded from education, and too many parents are frozen out of work and trapped in poverty because of high childcare costs. 

All children should have the chance and the resources they need to live a fulfilling life and to succeed, and we urge the Chancellor to put children at the heart of decisions about spending and increase the investment in children and families.’

Laurence Guinness, Chief Executive of The Childhood Trust, said:

‘Before Universal Credit is fully rolled out children are already going hungry in increasing numbers and hard-working families are breaking down because of static, poverty inducing wages and ever rising prices. The government urgently needs to show moral courage by adequately funding Universal Credit and stopping the cruel punishment it’s inflicting on many of the poorest and most vulnerable in society.’

Kathy Evans, Chief Executive of Children England, said:

‘We can’t stand by and watch children pay the bill for the recklessness and debts of bankers and politicians. Austerity is not over for children, it’s getting worse – and Theresa May must stop it.’

Alison Garnham, Chief Executive of Child Poverty Action Group, said:

Big social security cuts are pulling more and more of our children under the official poverty line so nine children in every class of thirty are living in poverty today – and most have at least one parent in work. Children’s health and wellbeing, their educational outcomes, their life chances and what they will earn as adults are likely to be jeopardised by growing up in poverty.  If we want a fair start for every child, we need to reinstate the funding that has been cut from financial support for children.   Restoring the value of child benefit, ending the freeze on working age benefits and reinstating the huge sums that were taken out of Universal Credit are essential first steps.’

A copy of the letter is available from the embargo date at: www.ncb.org.uk/childrenattheheart